Do you think you would ever hear someone ask you “If I died tomorrow, what would you say to me?” For the past couple of weeks, my grandmother has been in the hospital from dehydration and the dehydration became so bad that she was put on a breathing machine and is close to being on life support. Every day I had to ask myself what life would be like without her?
It is difficult for me to observe her mental deterioration and my inability to care for her. I’m not even able to call and speak to her anymore because she doesn’t recognize me. My grandmother always taught me to live for today and never for tomorrow. It is hard to see her suffer when she was such a strong role model in my life.
She’s a very feisty woman who stands up for what she believes in and doesn’t take anything from anyone. She’s a wise woman who would give you the shirt off her back if she had to.
Everyone around is worrying about materialistic objects like money, jewelry, clothes, shoes, cars, houses and phones and not about the people that are in front of them. The people that they cherish and hold close so dear to them can be gone in a heartbeat. My grandmother is one of those people. Even though she doesn’t recognize me and doesn’t even talk, I’m still there at the hospital being by her side until the bitter end.
I haven’t been there a lot because of school and homework and work but I try to be by her side regardless. Not a lot of people see that you have to also cherish the time you spend with others. My grandmother and I spent so much time together. We used to cook a lot of dinners, watch a lot of soap operas and listen to old music.
I learned something each and every day from her that I couldn’t get from anyone else. To me, she was a second mom and I loved every second with her. I treat my friends like family because now I’m afraid to lose them. Every day I take one day at a time because you don’t know what life has in store. Life is all about creating friendships and maintaining those friendships.
To always know that family, if family means your blood or none at all, to stay close and create memories that will stay with you for a lifetime. So the next time you have that argument with your best friend or get angry with someone over the smallest thing, just think: what if they died tomorrow, what would you say?
If I Died Tomorrow, What Would You Say?
By Allie Jeter
January 22, 2012
Allie Jeter
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