I was walking to the caf last week, when I opened the door in front of me and a guy grabbed it out of my hands and gave me “the nod,” letting me go ahead of him. I thought the gesture was nice at the time.
A recent sociology class examined the reason why men feel compelled to hold doors. It made me start thinking, “Do men hold the door because they have to or because they want to?” It seems to be a preconceived notion that men must hold the door for women. I have had doors held for me by both women and men. I have held the door for both women and men. I have also been insulted when the door is not held for me and find myself, now, asking why I was insulted. I am more than capable of holding the door for myself.
The movie “A Bronx Tale” points out that a girl, who gets into a car and leans over to unlock the door for a guy, is a keeper. As women, it’s up to us, to find the one guy that “wants” to hold the door and does not feel that he “needs” to hold the door.
Okay, maybe it is not as simple as door holding and unlocking locks, but the truth is that one small act could determine if you have found “the one.” .Never settle for anything less than what you feel you deserve.
Posted to the web by: Cecelia Francisco
