Who needs a boyfriend anyway?

I am 20 years old. I am a sophomore in college. I barely know what to wear in the morning, let alone what I want to do with the rest of my life.

And that is okay.

If I cannot be expected to know those things, why should I know who I am going to be spending all of my time with, or even the rest of my life?

Relationships are hard, and they are even harder in college. College is supposed to be the time of our lives. I missed out on a lot last year when I was a freshman—and even some of this year—because of the high school relationship I was desperately holding onto and trying to save. I was miserable. I went home every weekend, and I missed everything that happened on campus. I missed out on making a lot of different friends, too.

That is not to say I did not care for him, or that I am happy it did not work out—I was heartbroken for the longest time. As hard as relationships can be, breaking up and moving forward is harder. However, after some time, and especially after this last semester, I have grown to realize I am so much happier being single.

We are so young. If you are lucky enough to be with someone and to be happy with them, then that is great, and I am happy for you. That just is not something I feel the need to be so stressed about. We have enough going on in our lives; we do not need the pressures of looking for our “perfect matches.”

If Mr. Perfect walked into my life right now, of course I would be all in. Aside from that though, I am not going to purposefully go out and look for someone to be my other half. I do not even want someone to be my other half, ever. I do not want someone to “complete me.” I want to be complete and whole myself. Then eventually someone can come along and we can complement each other, rather than complete. You should not need a significant other in your life in order to feel like a whole person.

Now is the time to be irresponsible. Now is the time to have fun. Now is the time when we should not have to answer to somebody because we want to go to a party or hang out with someone of the opposite sex. It is our time to have fun and make mistakes and create memories that we will cherish for the rest of our lives. When I look back on college, I want to remember the friends, the parties, the laughs and the late-night conversations, trivial or not. I do not want to look back and see that I wasted my time chasing someone who would not chase me back. Those are the times I would only regret.

It is time to take life by the reins and just go with it. See what happens. Take it from me, you will only regret the things you missed out on.