It was Friday evening around 9 p.m. when this man came into Bella Rosa Italian Eatery, when I was on the cash register.
He was definitely older than me; I’d say early to mid – 30s, in his tight, black t-shirt he was somewhat tan and had white teeth, with no ring on his finger. I said hello to him and asked if I could help him with anything. He made a sarcastic remark about how nice it had been that day, as it rained all day, and took a menu.
He then stood at the counter and asked me what my favorite dish on the menu was. He decided on an order of fries and a cheesesteak Stromboli with sauce on the side. After I put in his order, I walked away to talk to my manager about another order I had taken and when I came back, he was still at the counter. He smiled and said I was very beautiful, so I uncomfortably thanked him for his compliment. As a 17 year old, I felt completely uneasy by this and was overjoyed when another customer came in.
While I was waiting on the new customer, I noticed the man was staring at my chest, as I was wearing a tighter black t-shirt. As I pulled up my shirt, he looked up at me and smirked. I guess I had blushed and looked uncomfortable, because my manager came over and suggested that I go help one of my co-workers in the back.
However, my manager had to help complete an order of three large pizzas, so I had to switch back to the cash register. Thank goodness by the time I got back to the register, the man was ready to pay for his order. He kept talking to me about school, then after he filled out the receipt, he slid it over to me. When I went to grab it, he held onto it for an extra second. When he let go, he said have a great evening and gave a creepy smirk. I then went to put the receipt in the drawer, and was extremely shocked to see the extra $10 tip he gave me, just for taking his order.
This was not the first creepy experience that I had while working. Additionally, there were other girls that worked at the cash register and if they did not wear a tight shirt, they would not get any tips.
When I was 17-years-old, I worked at a small family -owned pizza shop and restaurant near my house. I worked there for over a year; the pay was decent and the food was delicious, but certain customers were complete pigs. I worked four days out of the week making $2.80 plus tips as a waitress. When I was working as a cashier, I would make $8.00. I worked really hard and I always felt really proud of myself for putting in all that effort, but that one incident made me extremely mad and changed my entire perspective on how I dress.
According to Lovepanky.com you should do this to attract a man’s attention, “If you’re proud of your legs, stretch it out for him. If it’s your breasts, stand upright. If it’s anything else, just make sure you do something to accentuate your asset. It’s all physical now and shallow, but when it comes to getting a guy’s attention, put physical appearance and confidence before nice personality, at least at first sight.”
For some people this may seem completely understandable, but to me that sounds completely shallow.
According to Wikihow.com, “90 percent of guys don’t like girls who try to be sexy and wear really skimpy clothes. If you are a random person and he doesn’t like random people, then you shouldn’t change who you are.”
After that incident, I decided I would never wear tight clothing to work. It made me feel really dirty and skanky, like I was using my body to make extra money.
“When my girlfriend bartends, she tends to wear sexy and revealing clothing since guys tend to give bigger tips to a girl who’s showing some skin. I think her clothes are too revealing and it’s making me uncomfortable,” said Chef Alex on an online blog. A few nights ago she was assaulted by some drunk pervert who tried to grab at her, yet the next evening she was wearing basically the same outfit like nothing happened.”
This is an ongoing issue in our society today. There are so many other ways to look nice and sexy rather than revealing your body, ladies. If you don’t care about men judging you and comparing you to other women, then go ahead but I personally have enough self-respect and don’t feel comfortable showing more skin to make an extra buck.
