Moving in before marriage

By Ashley Weyler
April 14, 2005

Cecelia Francisco

Good idea

By Chrstina Williams

One of the best ways to get to know someone is to spend quality time with them and get to know everything about them. I feel that moving in with a significant other before marriage is all right.

I’ve heard that the first year of marriage is the hardest. So why not live with the person you are going to marry prior to marriage?

It would seem to make sense to try living together before making a lifelong commitment to someone. I would want to make sure that I could handle living with someone before I say “I do.”

I believe that the best way to know if the marriage will work is to live with the person you think is “the one” first. If two people cannot live together for a year without being married then the marriage will never last.

I feel that living together before marriage will only help the marriage last longer and maybe even cut down on the divorce rates. Who wants to spend thousands of dollars on a wedding if two people cannot live together before there is an engagement ring present?

For example, a friend of mine has been staying with this guy and the two of them can only live together for no more then a week at a time. These two are not on the road to marriage, thank goodness. But if they were getting married, then they would know things probably would not work out in the long run.

Living together prior to marriage has given them safety net. They now know that they cannot handle living with each other, sparing them of a nasty divorce.

If these two people cannot tolerate one another’s presence for more than a week then there is no way they are meant to be together. I believe that two people who are meant to be together do not mind being together all the time.

Living together before marriage does not mean that the couple will necessarily cut themselves off from the rest of the world. Sure it could happen, but the same could happen for two people who are just married. They may want to spend as much time together as possible, therefore cutting off the rest of the world.

Two people who live together before they are married are going to have to work at their relationship just as hard as those who are married or engaged and are living together. If one of the people in the relationship thinks the other person is “the one” then they will work to make their differences work. No matter if there is a ring on anyone’s finger, the two in the relationship should always be willing to work at the relationship and give 100 percent.

I also come from an old-fashioned home where my parents would like to see me married before moving in with a boyfriend or fianc

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