I remember when I was 17 years old, I started to date.
One of the first dates I had was probably one of the most influential in my dating experience. We’ll call this stud-muffin “John.” John seemed nice, that’s why I decided to go out with him in the first place.
He was from down south, and I thought his accent was cute at least. But when it came to the date it was far less than what I expected.
This boy never even opened the door to his huge monster truck for me. I almost killed myself trying to get in the gigantic thing.
When I made it to the top of Mount Everest, he decided on dinner at a nice restaurant.
He actually seemed into me, which was my own personal goal for the night.
When the check came, things quickly went downhill. He had the audacity to ask me for my half of the check. I was absolutely horrified. Any girl would expect that the guy would want to pay for dinner on the first date. Luckily I had money on me and I paid for my meal.
After dinner he walked me to his car and asked me if I wanted to go to the movies. Needless to say, I didn’t spend another minute with him and made him take me home.
John and I still continue to talk and be friends till this day. However, I did ask him why he didn’t pay for our date. His only reply was, “Well you seemed like an independent kind of girl. I didn’t want to make you feel like you were weak, or offend you in anyway.”
Alright, maybe I am a bit independent, but that has absolutely no bearing on the fact that I like to be treated like a lady. I mean seriously. I like to be treated to dinner, heck, what girl doesn’t?
Yes, it’s true women want equality with men, but there is nothing wrong with being spoiled a little bit every once in a while.
I often wonder why all the opening of doors and paying for things has completely gone out of the window these days. It seems that dates are more informal then ever, and kids are starting at a younger age.
A girl getting flowers these days is as rare as a dinosaur walking the earth in 2006.
Seriously, girls love that stuff and one would think that it would catch on. But all that is just extra to a girl. We want the opening of doors, and the nice dinner and a few compliments.
These are the important little things that make a date a great one, at least in the girl’s point of view.
I remember coming home that night after my date with John. I told my mom everything, but she was quite shocked when I told her what happened.
Although my mom is 46 now, she does remember when boys would fall all over her and be sure to open a car door once in a while.
She asked me as a joke if there would be another date, and of course I shot that idea down while still in the car with him.
Independence should not stand in the way of getting treated like a lady. In fact, even the most independent woman can let her guard down for one night and enjoy feeling special.
That’s how it should always be, and it’s time for boys to recognize those little things that make us girls feel special all the time.
Posted to the web by Shane Evans
