‘Growing up means planting our own gardens’

By Diana Vilares
March 13, 2008

For most of us, after our four-year stay at 610 King for Prussia Road, we will be Cabrini graduates. Yikes!

Thursdays will quickly turn into an 11 p.m. bedtime (11:30 p.m. for those who want to live dangerously,) because Friday morning you’ll be expected at work, 9 a.m. sharp and without the stench of vodka and cranberry.

Responsibility is around the corner for us ’08 and ’09ers. So why not live it up, right?


I’ve seen too many people throw away their dignity, some of their dreams and best friends on account of that logic. Their excuse is always, “Well, I’m in college, so why should I care?”

Well, unless your dumb self fails IST, you will have to care and that reality check will be delivered on a silver platter sooner than you’d think.

As a junior, I’ve seen a lot of people with great potential being sucked into all that is college. Relax, I’m not as bad as I seem. I’m all about screwdrivers and table dancing (judge me-I dare you), but I’ve got my priorities in check.

We’ve all skipped a class because it was too cold to get out of bed. We’ve all skipped an assignment because we were dealing with breakups or other mess-ups, but sometimes you just have to grow a pair and do what you have to do instead of relying on luck or disregarding it as unimportant.

Too many people think they’re invincible just because they’re in college. Look at it this way, what will you do the day you wake up and realize that your pretty face isn’t as promising as it once was? If you can’t deliver anything more than just a bat of your eyelashes, don’t flaunt yourself so much, that goes especially for the ladies.

It’s bothersome when I hear that friendships are broken up on account of something as insignificant as a text message. Which means that thanks to our technologically advanced society, we all need to learn how to make phone calls again.

Yes, we’re in college and it’s supposed to be the best four years of our lives, but don’t forget that there is life outside of Cabrini’s 112-acre campus. Don’t jeopardize things for yourself now because you didn’t think things through when you had the chance.

This year I became very close to someone who has taught me a great lesson in weeding through the good, the bad and growing up. They told me, “Growing up means planting our own gardens. Instead of waiting, you should act. By doing so you will weed through your garden and keep only the flowers.”

They don’t know it, but I’ll be forever grateful for their words.

My message to my fellow Cavaliers is if you’re having a hard time roughing it through this whole college thing and getting yourself in order, it might not be because the classes are too hard and there aren’t enough hours in a day. It’s because you’ve become too caught up in “college,” in what everyone else is doing, saying or thinking to take the time out to do, say and think for yourself.

A word to the wise, the only people worth having in your life are the ones that deserve to have you in theirs, everyone else is just fluff. Be careful of the people that aren’t important in the long run and hold onto the ones that are because those are the ones that will remember to call you at 7 a.m. on a Friday morning just to make sure you make it into work.

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