In today’s society, people are choosing to go towards the social media approach to finding a boyfriend or girlfriend. In my eyes, this approach can either be a bad thing or good thing.
People now get “catfished,” which is when people form a relationship online, but find out that they were lied to when meeting face to face. This wasn’t even a real word a couple of years ago. People are also crediting their hookups to the new dating app, Tinder, an application for your phone that allows you to chat with different people who are in your area.
It is crazy to think that hitting people up on Tinder and direct messaging people on Twitter have become the new social norms to getting dates or even just one-night stands. I met my boyfriend, whom I have been dating for almost six years now, before people connected on social media, let alone looked for hookups that way. We had to actually talk in person and we couldn’t depend on social media to help us talk to each other.
Thinking about this, the question is often asked to me by many people, “How do you do it?” Honestly, it isn’t that difficult. I personally think meeting people on these different types of social media is not the best way to meet somebody for the first time or even talk to them. I like meeting new people, don’t get me wrong, but I like meeting them in person and not over a phone or computer screen. People take way too much advantage of the fact that you can talk to new people from all these different applications and social media portals.
Sadly, we live in a world where you meet new people, especially prospective relationship candidates, over social media. That isn’t to banish all relationship communication via social media. There are benefits. For one, that is how my boyfriend and I stay connected when we don’t get the chance to see one another. We use social media to chat and update each other on what’s going on in our lives since we do live four and a half hours away from each other the majority of the year.
I don’t like how out of hand people have used social media to date but I do like how it brings people together and keeps so many people connected. I feel like without it , people would be forced to interact and talk to different people they are interested in, in person and not just through a screen.
I think the way people meet nowadays has really changed the expectations of dating and relationships now. It is a lot more casual than it was just four or five years ago. People think it doesn’t mean as much when they go out on dates and girls have a lot lower expectations for the guy when they just met on Tinder.
I wish people would take a step back and see how casual the dating scene really has become and how meeting people in person instead of over a phone application can make a such big difference.
